Charisma and Being Charismatic Leader
Did it ever occur to you that what are the qualities that leaders have occupied? Someone may answer it that all it takes to become leader is Knowledge. But that is somehow true that Knowledge is great source to add in a leadership qualities. But there are other things that add mass to the leadership qualities as well. Ever heard about Charismatic Leaders? What is it that makes them so prominent? “When you see someone else who has charisma, without realizing it, you’re mimicking their posture and their facial expressions,” says Professor Wiseman, a psychologist. “An obvious example is when someone smiles at you and you smile back. And how you hold yourself influences your emotions.” Professor Wiseman also says that charisma is 50% innate and 50% trained.
So what are the qualities that enable us to become quite powerful and positive in every aspect of our life? Studies have shown that Charisma is not God-Gifted, but it can be developed by working on your interpersonal skills. Olivia Fox Cabane, author of The Charisma Myth, debunks the idea that Charisma is a born trait, outlining several tools and exercises that you can use develop a charismatic and magnetic personality.
“Charisma without character is postponed calamity.”Peter Ajisafe
Here are some Qualities that you can practice to become one of influential charismatic personalities.
Wouldn’t it be amazing to like yourself no matter what you do? Yes, it is an extraordinary feeling to be fulfilled by your own self. It would be much easier for other people to like you if you like yourself. Charisma comes when you have Confidence in yourself which gives a sense of belief that everything you do can be trusted. The Charismatic Leaders are of half glass full type so they don’t doubt themselves instead they bring out the best in them.
How hard is it to be present in an interacting with someone? It is the easiest one but the most misunderstood aspect by most people. Studies have shown that our mind wanders 47% of the time, research done by Matthew Killingsworth and Daniel Gilbert. “I find it kind of weird now to look down a crowded street and realize that half the people aren’t really there,” Dr. Gilbert says. So it turns out that it is the most difficult one. It simply means to listen what other person is saying with the mindfulness state. This is the foremost quality that Charismatic people have that they not only listen to what the other person is saying but they also know why they are stating this. So it’s important if you want to feel important, it’s the same way to make others feel important too.
“Being present—paying attention to what’s going on rather than being caught up in your thoughts—can yield immense rewards. When you exhibit presence, those around you feel listened to, respected, and valued.” Says Olivia Fox Cabane, The Charisma Myth: Master the Art of Personal Magnetism
Your body language is another aspect that is of great importance. Stand straight and with power. Studies have shown that the body language, also known as non-verbal communication, comprises 60% of the interpersonal skills. You don’t always have to say something unusual or witty to grab others attention. All you have to do is just make your posture right; heads upward and shoulders downward with your back straight. Improving your posture has proven to increase testosterones (dominance hormone) and lowers cortisol (stress hormone). Another trick is to look straight in eyes to which you are delivering your speeches to. It would make such a powerful impact that they would understand it in an instant.
We have heard countless times that it is not what you say but how you say it. Being respectful is another quality that Charismatic people employ in themselves. Criticizing other is much better while being respectful. Think of how want yourself to be critiqued. Be direct and don’t beat about the bush. Address the problem directly and keep complementing as well which will help the steady momentum of the enthusiasm. Be considerate of others. Building confidence in yourself is crucial but building confidence in others, that is what Charisma is all about.
Too much consideration without power can come across as needy. Too much power without being Listening actively (presence) can come across as arrogant. And too much presence can turn to the creepy image. So all the qualities must be balanced in any way.
“One of the reasons that the Dalai Lama has such a powerful effect on people is his ability to radiate both tremendous warmth and complete acceptance.”Olivia Fox Cabane