How to be happy: 4 steps to become a happier person
Not so long ago, I have discussed Happiness in my other article where I actually told what is Happiness in reality and what are the benefits of being happy or the opportunities they lead us too. Today I want to talk about something about how we can be happy. This is that one million question that people ask every time. Because no matter how much we try, we can never be happy 24/7.
As we know that Happiness is a feeling of well-being, bliss or inner peace, a state of being happy, in which we feel satisfied from all directions. Isn’t it charming to dream about a life where there lies no negativity, or any circumstance that would leave you to the edge of the cliff? There seems to be one minor challenge, The World Happiness Report states that particularly at anyone time, over 220 million children and 1 billion adults suffer from anxiety, depression and many disorders. This is not a pretty picture of cheerful people on a happy planet.
Often, there are situations which capture our mind without us knowing that, and in the long run, we are just prone to thinking that way. Here, I have tried to list how we can try ourselves to be happy.
Acknowledge Your Negative Thoughts
We have heard many times; don’t let apprehensive thoughts approach your mind, or don’t indulge your mind in negativity or just be positive. But how in the world are we supposed to be happy all the time? The thing that most people won’t tell you is that you conquer your negative thoughts. Don’t try to just stop these negative thoughts because there is a saying that if everything in your life would be right, it would lack the importance of Happiness. So telling yourself, “I would never think about it (negative thought) again”. This would only make things worse, and you will think about it even more. Instead, take some time and really think about what is so negative in your thought and try to change it into a positive stance.
Socratic Questioning is a technique in which we challenge and change our negative thoughts to positive ones. It is the law of the Universe which states that what you think all the time shall be given to you. So it’s not just a coincidence that you wake up and suddenly something goes wrong. It happens because of the fear that lies in you. Even if you try to make a negative statement into a positive one, most of the time it doesn’t work because deep inside you, you know that it’s not true. Dr. Joseph Murphy said in his book (The Power of Subconscious Mind) “I discovered that when they said, “I am prosperous, I am wealthy,” they felt within themselves that they were lying to themselves.”
One thing we can do is to write all our negative thoughts out on a paper and then ask ourselves the reason about these thoughts; like “what is the evidence of this thought?” or “if I am basing these on facts or my feelings?” and “What could be another point of view of this situation?”
Express Gratitude to be happy
Another way to handle happiness is by being grateful. Now you might wonder what would I be grateful for when nothing in my life is right. Well, stop right there and change your focus from gloomy thinking to something more amusing. Think right now, what are you grateful for? Maybe you are ALIVE, or your parents, your family and your friends. Daniel Gilbert, the Harvard College Professor of Psychology at Harvard University, explained “We are happy when we have family, we are happy when we have friends and almost all the other things we think make us happy are actually just ways of getting more family and friends.” Choose to be thankful today and for all your life that is pending.
Stop Comparing Yourself with Others
We need to understand that no two souls on this earth are similar. Even the twin born would have distinct personalities. We all are different in every aspect anyone can imagine. The basic reason that contradicts happiness is comparing ourselves with others. Stop comparing yourself. And also don’t imagine stuff if someone got a higher post than you or someone got a car and you don’t have one. Be thankful for what you have right now and also think good for others. Because thinking bad for others would never affect them, instead it would backbite you.
“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease forever to be able to do it.”J. M. Barrie
Boost Your Confidence to be happy
Why would you even bother yourself to find or increase your happiness if all the time you self-doubt yourself ! It’s important to know the importance of having confidence and knowing about self-efficacy. It will not only make you happy but will also make you charismatic. The best way is to believe in yourself and know that you can do it even if you don’t succeed at your best, but knowing that you can make it happen will definitely turn the tides. To be happier, you know what things, activities make you happy. Progress more by focusing on the skills that would make you feel happier. Compliment yourself daily, even if there are few things to compliment about. But Remember, little things count the most.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”Lao TZU
Remember, One Last thing. Life is not Always Same. So it’s your choice to keep on mourning or learn how to deal with change and be happy with what you have.